Book Review-Building a successful family |02 July 2011
Family is everything and anything if man has to fulfill his purpose here on earth.
Join me in the Family Corner as we undertake this journey to a sweet home system that leads to good success in whatever you do.
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Building A Successful Family is written to help every man and woman achieve success in family life, which will then translate to success in other areas of life. It is the A-Z of marriage and family life, as it contains building blocks with which a successful home and family can be built.
In this book, you will discover that:
• God designed marriage and family to succeed.
• You have a part to play in building a successful family.
Introduction
Topmost on the counseling list of churches and counseling centres are family related issues. So many people have questions on the family, for which very few seem to have adequate answers. Yet, a great family or house is part of a man’s testimony. Whatever success a man or woman will enjoy in any area of life, begins with a great family or household.
God, the designer of marriage and the family, recounting the virtues of Job, did not only make mention of his character traits and assets, but also specifically mentioned his family.
There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and eschewed evil.
And there were born unto him seven sons and three daughters.
His substance also was seven thousand sheep, and three thousand camels, and five hundred yoke of oxen, and five hundred she asses, and a very great household; so that this man was the greatest of all the men of the east.
Job 1:1-3.
From this account, it is quite obvious that a man’s testimony is not complete without a mention of the state of his family. Family success is the foundation for all-round success. Any man who succeeds as the head of his family is sure to succeed in anything else in life. No matter what level of success a man or woman attains in life, if it is not accompanied by an undeniable family success, such success or accomplishment will be unsustainable. Society is replete with several great destinies that have crashed due to the failure in the family set-up. Social, financial, business or career success (even with fame and all) without family success is tasteless and frustrating.
God designed the family for success and not failure! He proved this by being practically involved in the institution of the first marriage, and subsequently the family. Take a closer look at this passage.
And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
Genesis 2:21-22.
When the first marriage was instituted, God did not just speak it into existence like He did the rest of creation. He was practically involved in its institution.
There is no limit to the pleasures and blessings God can bring to all areas of your life, through a successful family life. There is a joy that comes along with family success. Joy entreats divine presence, and with divine presence comes “pleasures for evermore” (Psalms 16:11)
The family can be likened to a highly valuable product. Just as every product requires necessary raw materials before it can be produced and function excellently, so also the family cannot function successfully until relevant raw materials are fully processed.
Joshua 1:8 shows us the factory from where all the raw materials for family success can be obtained.
This book of the law of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
“This book of the law” or the Word of God is the factory for family success. It is full of principles which, when processed and practiced, are bound to deliver, not just success, but good success. A successful home is dependent on a total adherence to biblical marriage principles.
Success in all areas of life is God’s will for you. But it does not come by chance, neither is it an accidental occurrence. Nothing successful can be classified as an accident, as no accident is a testimony.
I am yet to find a man or woman who succeeded in his/her family by chance, who woke up after 50 years and just discovered that they had made it! It never happens, because success is not a gift! It neither is a product of luck nor chance. It does not just happen. It takes conscious, deliberate, and calculated steps to realise success in any venture, including the family.
The fact that many are frustrated, unhappy, fed up, and failing does not, however, tamper with the truth of God’s Word. The family is designed for success! This truth must be appreciated in order for it to be appropriated. That is precisely why the later part of Joshua 1:8 says:
.... Then thou shalt have good success.
If you are married and experiencing turbulence in your family, all you need do is to apply the principles contained in God’s Word and the storms will cease. If you are about to begin your own family, you can avoid frustration by operating the principles contained in the Word of God. If, however, your family is one that can be termed “successful” it can move up to the realm of good success! For success to remain success, it must be constantly improved upon.
Success today that is not improved upon will become failure tomorrow. The largest room in the world is the room for improvement.
A better tomorrow awaits your family! That is why, I believe, God instructed me to write this book: so that you can enjoy God’s best. I believe only the best is good enough for you.
By Pastor David Koin (Editor)
Winners’ Chapel International